Great Expectations

February 28, 2017 in Musings

Read this article on ST and felt really sorry for not only the lady and her new baby, but us women as well. Women of today are overburdened by expectations from the society.

If you are not married by a certain age, you are either spending too much time working to prove yourself or deemed to have too high expectations. As if we shouldn’t have high expectations when it comes to selecting a partner to spend the rest of our lives with. As if we wanted to put in twice as much effort in order to gain the same recognition as the men.

Let’s face it. When a new female boss/colleague comes in, how many staff would try to find out whether she’s married or not, have kids or not, etc in order to ‘categorise’ her? If a new male boss/colleague comes in, who really cares if he’s married or not?!

If you are married and working, good for you! You are not adding onto your husband’s burden and should probably have kids soon.

If you are working, married and have kids, congratulations – MORE expectations!

You are expected to give birth naturally and breastfeed your baby at least six months. You are expected to be there for your children always and bring them up well as perfect humans. If anything bad happens, YOU the mother will be the first one to get blamed.

You are expected to not expose your children to (bad) television or YouTube. You are expected to revise with the children what they learned in school and enrichment classes every day, practice piano daily, teach them life skills, read them bedtime stories every night, and be the Best Loving Mom EVER to your children. Yet, the Dads will always get Best Parent Award as Mums = Homework + Housework.

You are expected to go back to work so that you don’t waste the education your parents spent so much on you. You are expected to be reachable at all times for work. If you leave on time to rush home to your children, it sends the message your priority is not work, but family. Personally I don’t see anything wrong with that but not clocking more hours at work pretty much translates to career suicide. At this point, I just want to emphasize that no one is indispensable at work but your roles as a parent or child are irreplaceable to your family. I have no idea how women are expected to behave at work. If you are nice, you are a pushover. If you are assertive, you are a bitch.

You are expected to keep the household in order. You are expected to keep your home clean and tidy for your husband and children. You are expected to cook delicious food that is healthy for your family. Bonus if you can plate them well enough for Instagram!

You are expected to be a supportive spouse who still prioritise marriage and couple time over children. You are expected to be a loving wife. You are expected to be understanding of the husband’s long hours and frequent traveling for work.

On top of all these, you are expected to maintain yourself well. You are expected to spend some time running or doing yoga so that you don’t look like a frumpy auntie next to your husband and a grumpy mother next to your children. Basically, you are expected to be a good looking Super Mom, Super Wife, and Super Co-worker.

It’s a miracle many of us are not dying from exhaustion. Women are probably the worst critics of women cos we expect so much from ourselves too. We need to learn to judge lesser and care more for one another to survive!

Dottieshop’s Watercolour Kits

February 14, 2017 in Good Things Must Share / Kids

This is a shoutout for a dear friend who so generously shared everything she learned in watercolor painting class with a few of us when she just started out. Come to think of it, she was probably the one who inspired me to learn more about watercolour painting and calligraphy as well.

This dear friend is Dotz, the lady behind @dottieshop_sg. For some time now, she’s been actively teaching watercolour painting and calligraphy at Artify Studio. Do check out her upcoming classes – she’s a very patient teacher so don’t worry if you are totally clueless!

Thoughtful as she is, she also came up with basic calligraphy and watercolour kits for busy people who want to learn but can’t seem to find time to go for classes. We managed to snag one of the last few Dino watercolor kits and the cub, who is a huge dino-fan, had been raring to try them out!

(I do some leisure painting at home, hence the kids are using my brushes in the pics.)

I must say, these kits are real value for money! Not only do you get instructions on how to paint, Dotz included quality watercolour paint (Windsor & Newton!!!), palette, water brush and watercolor paper. Basically, everything you will need!

Please email her at dottieshop@gmail.com to check on availability of the watercolor or calligraphy kits!

Chicago The Musical

February 12, 2017 in Lifestyle / Media

The award-winning devilish delicious musical CHICAGO is back in Singapore!

Step into the razzle-dazzle decadence of the 1920s with a nightclub singer, a double-murderess, a smooth-talking lawyer and a cell block of sin.

Chicago is the story of Roxie Hart, a housewife and nightclub dancer with ambitions of Vaudeville stardom, who murders her lover after he threatens to walk out on her. In her desperate bid to avoid conviction, she hires Chicago’s slickest criminal lawyer to dupe the public and media by transforming her malicious crime into sensational headlines.

What makes Chicago wildly popular is how sensationalizing the show is with social satire, intrigue, love, betrayal, rivalry and friendship all put together. Obviously, the music and sexy dancing are a huge part of its attraction. And I absolutely LOVE the orchestra on stage too!

Craving for a hot and sensationalizing date this Valentine’s?

Chicago opens at the MasterCard Theatres, Marina Bay Sands from 8 February to 26 February. Get tickets here or SISTIC.

Crazy Classics with Sid Bowfin – Giveaway

January 30, 2017 in Good Things Must Share / Kids / Media

Parents who have children learning music or some musical instrument would know how hard it is to find kids-friendly orchestra performances or any performance that give the children more exposure to classical music.

Which is why I’m totally looking forward to bringing the kids to catch Crazy Classics with Sid Bowfin!

This high-energy solo act promises plenty of rollicking hilarity by the talented musician and comedian – a self-confessed “manic idiot violinist” – whose enthusiasm for the classics is highly contagious; and surpassed only by his zany antics and flawless technique.

Suited for 4 year olds and above, Crazy Classics with Sid Bowfin is a brilliant combination of classical music, recital, stand-up comedy, audience interaction and even a clown routine.

A master of improvisation, Sid’s material will inevitably be spiced up with surprises and undoubtedly showcase the accessibility of classical music to all ages. Audiences will be thrilled with authentic renditions of famous Mozart, Vivaldi, Rossini and Pachelbel pieces as well as the unexpected pop hit, along with the opportunity to be picked as Sid’s sidekick!

This truly unique original performance will be performed daily from 25 February to 12 March 2017 at Drama Centre Black Box.

GOOD THINGS MUST SHARE:

We have a set of 4 tickets to Crazy Classics with Sid Bowfin to give away to one reader of the blog!

Date of Show: Sunday 26 February 2017
Time of Show: 2.30pm
Venue: Drama Centre Black Box, Level 5, National Library Building

Note:

  • The show is  recommended for 4 years old and above
  • Please participate only if you are able to make it for this show timing
  • Prize is non-transferable, non-refundable & non-exchangeable
  • Children younger than 1 year old will not be admitted

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  1. Like and Follow Missus Tay on Facebook
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Murphy’s birthday party

January 15, 2017 in Kids

Murphy’s birthday party. I had the “something not quite right” feeling the whole of yesterday.

Turns out I did forget to include beverage for the catering from Saybons. But after settling that, something STILL didn’t feel right. Kept getting the husb to ask me questions to check if I had missed out on anything but everything seemed in order. Or so, I thought.


This morning, balloons from KidzPartyStore were wrongly delivered to my place instead of party venue. Managed to get them to ask the driver to come back and pick up the balloons to drop off at the party venue.

Next, the venue – Splash @ KidzAmaze didn’t get their party facilitator to come over despite us confirming over email. I provided them with the age group so that they can plan the games and they even gave me a rundown of events in the email. The lack of responsibility was appalling.


The caterer and Chef were late! They were supposed to be there at 930 for setup since the party starts at 10, but was late cos they couldn’t find the way. For a caterer whose job is to cater food at different locations in Singapore, this is not an acceptable reason. It would have helped if their food was fantabulous, but the spread was imho, average. The coordinator did offer to ask the chef to stay behind another 10minutes or so if necessary, but I thought it was a feeble attempt at service recovery. Even if they want to stay behind, the venue provider wouldn’t agree!

ANYWAY! After settling the catering, I realised the cake was still not here! This was unusual because Celebrate-with-Cake ALWAYS sends their cake over on time or earlier. (Have been getting cakes from them for most of the kids’ parties since 2012!) Was overwhelmed by the something-not-right feeling at this point while calling to check on the cake. Turns out they didn’t prepare the cake!!!

AN.ABSOLUTE.NIGHTMARE.

No time to kick up a fuss or mope as we worked on solutions to salvage the situation. Got my brother to call Swensens to check if they have Jake & the Neverland Pirates cake at Waterway Point (nearest outlet) and their staff said yes. But when my brother went over to get the cake, they said they made a mistake and there was no cakes of this theme at their branch or branches in the vicinity! My baker managed to do some service recovery with cupcakes arriving in about an hour’s time so we survived the birthday song segment.

I know the cub doesn’t like cupcakes for his birthday, so I asked him how he felt about the cupcakes when we got home after the party. He had participated in the discussion of design for his cake and was somewhat sad that it didn’t materialise. But he bounced back quickly and told us, “it’s ok, Mommy! I’m still happy and the cupcakes are so yummy!” ❤️ my 6yo.

On a positive note, I’m glad my biggest nightmare of all did not happen – I was very worried that his classmates wouldn’t be able to come even though I have gotten their RSVP. Except for one who couldn’t change her class and another who fell sick, I was so relieved that all the others could come as the cub had been looking forward to this celebration with his friends and teachers for the longest time.

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