Somebody needs me

March 6, 2014 in Uncategorized

This “Mommy, Somebody Needs You” article has been making its rounds on my FB feed. It resonates so much with us moms it makes my heart ache a little when I read it.

That ‘Mommy’ is my duty, privilege and honor. I am ready to be there when somebody needs me, all day and all night.  Mommy means I just put the baby back down after her 4am feeding when a 3-year-old has a nightmare.  Mommy means I am surviving on coffee and toddler leftovers.  Mommy means my husband and I haven’t had a real conversation in months.  Mommy means I neglect myself and put others before my needs, without a thought.  Mommy means that my body is full of aches and my heart is full of love.

True stories.

The author couldn’t have put it better. It is definitely a huge privilege to be a mommy. I actually love being very much needed by my babies. Since the arrival of our #2, I told myself that I need to cherish every bit of this since she could very well be our last baby.

Somebody needs me at bedtime.

To read books with. To revise Chinese words together. To hold to sleep with.

Despite the comfortable cot and cot bed we got them, Mommy’s bed is always the best place to fall asleep on. Almost at every bed/nap time, I would have such conversations with the kids.

Me: Go to your bed and sleep, baby.
Cub: I sleep your bed first?
Me: I will roll you back to your bed after you fall asleep ok?
Cub: Ok! *rolls over to his bed to bring his bolster and panda*

Me: Can you go to sleep now? It’s getting late.
Cub: Mommy, pat pat.
Me: *pat pat*
Cub: Mommy, hold hand.
Me: Do you want to hold my hand or want me to pat you to sleep?
Cub: *pauses* pat / hold hand (depending on preference for the night)
Cub: Mommy, blanket!

Me: Meimei, close your eyes and sleep!
Dragonlady: Okayyyyyy *closes her eyes and opens them again*
Me: *pats her bum*
Dragonlady: NOOOOO!!
Me: *cuddles her*
Dragonlady: NOOOOO!!!
Me: Go to sleep then!
Dragonlady: Blanket! Baby (bear)! Buls (Bolster)!!
Me: *covers her with the blanket and throw the bear and bolster at her*
Dragonlady: Theenk keww!

Somebody needs me at mealtimes.

Me: Meimei, do you want Mommy to feed you?
Dragonlady: NOOO! I feed.
Me: Good girl!

*turns to the cub*

Cub: Mommy, feed!
Me: Aren’t you feeding yourself in school?
Cub: I want Mommy feed!

*Dragonlady joins in the fun*

Dragonlady: I want Mommy feed!

Somebody needs me when they are not well.

For medication. For nasal spray. For taking of temperatures. For oiling. For sponging. All day long and all through the night.

To clean them up when they throw up. To cuddle and tell them it’s okay.

Somebody needs me even if I am unwell.

The kids have to be fed. The bottles have to be washed. The bags have to be packed. The bedtime routine has to go on. The Chinese revision playtime the kids love has to go on!

Mommy means ensuring you don’t wake the kids up when you want to throw up in the middle of the night.

Mommy means you carry and cuddle your kids when they need you even when the masseuse thinks you walk funny cos of your back aches.

Somebody needs me during my shower.

For some reason, the dragonlady tends to stir in her sleep and wake up looking for me the moment I turn on the shower.

Mommy means you will have company in the shower probably until the kid(s) turns 3. (I HOPE!)

Somebody needs me all the time.

Mommy means letting the kids know you will always be there for them and always love them.

Cherish every single moment of being needed cos there will come a day when the children no longer need you as much as they did in the early years of their lives. And you can never turn back time again.

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14 Comments

  • Reply Mummy Ed March 6, 2014 at 3:51 PM

    I loved the post too – I really need more encouragement like that these days trying to juggle 3!

    • Reply Missus Tay March 6, 2014 at 4:00 PM

      not easy managing 3, and your boys are very active! JIA YOU!!

  • Reply Rachel March 6, 2014 at 4:21 PM

    Your post made me cry…again, after I read the article on my FB feed a while ago and cried. Motherhood is so bittersweet, so raw and makes me feel painfully alive, if that makes sense. It’s hard but I won’t change anything about it.

    • Reply Missus Tay March 6, 2014 at 4:41 PM

      i know what you mean. a good support group can actually do wonders for the spirit! we can form our little group, if you need! 🙂

  • Reply Ai Sakura March 6, 2014 at 4:57 PM

    Wonderfully written Candice. There are times when I feel like it’s just so so hard but if she doesn’t need me, what’s the point of being her mother?

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

    • Reply Missus Tay March 7, 2014 at 12:02 AM

      Thank you, Ai! We wear these badges with pride! 😉

  • Reply Susan March 7, 2014 at 11:50 PM

    Yes, actually I pray that we will still always be needed in their lives, no matter how old they are

    • Reply Missus Tay March 10, 2014 at 10:09 AM

      i’m sure we will always be needed. just that they may not realize it when they are older. 😉

  • Reply Cayce March 8, 2014 at 1:48 AM

    love this post, reminds me to always look at the positive side. being a mum is tiring, sometimes lonely (and defensive), but it’s all worth it! 🙂

    • Reply Missus Tay March 10, 2014 at 10:17 AM

      yea, it is really exhausting. i wonder how our mums and grandmothers do it. and they are still looking after me and my kids!!

      knowing how hard it is, we need to be more positive and encouraging towards fellow moms!

  • Reply Zee March 9, 2014 at 8:57 PM

    Lovely post Candice. Enjoyed reading it very much!

    • Reply Missus Tay March 10, 2014 at 10:41 AM

      am sure you can relate to many of these instances soon! 🙂

  • Reply kristine March 10, 2014 at 8:13 AM

    I only got to reading your post now! and I totally understand!
    My eyebag’s eyebags have eyebags.
    Think I need to put toothpicks to keep them open soon.
    you’re going such a great job!

    • Reply Missus Tay March 10, 2014 at 10:42 AM

      hahah, 你很夸张 lor!

      the good thing, you will figure out a way to manage eventually. so don’t worry ok!

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