This “Mommy, Somebody Needs You” article has been making its rounds on my FB feed. It resonates so much with us moms it makes my heart ache a little when I read it.
That ‘Mommy’ is my duty, privilege and honor. I am ready to be there when somebody needs me, all day and all night. Mommy means I just put the baby back down after her 4am feeding when a 3-year-old has a nightmare. Mommy means I am surviving on coffee and toddler leftovers. Mommy means my husband and I haven’t had a real conversation in months. Mommy means I neglect myself and put others before my needs, without a thought. Mommy means that my body is full of aches and my heart is full of love.
The author couldn’t have put it better. It is definitely a huge privilege to be a mommy. I actually love being very much needed by my babies. Since the arrival of our #2, I told myself that I need to cherish every bit of this since she could very well be our last baby.
Somebody needs me at bedtime.
To read books with. To revise Chinese words together. To hold to sleep with.
Despite the comfortable cot and cot bed we got them, Mommy’s bed is always the best place to fall asleep on. Almost at every bed/nap time, I would have such conversations with the kids.
Me: Go to your bed and sleep, baby.
Cub: I sleep your bed first?
Me: I will roll you back to your bed after you fall asleep ok?
Cub: Ok! *rolls over to his bed to bring his bolster and panda*
Me: Can you go to sleep now? It’s getting late.
Cub: Mommy, pat pat.
Me: *pat pat*
Cub: Mommy, hold hand.
Me: Do you want to hold my hand or want me to pat you to sleep?
Cub: *pauses* pat / hold hand (depending on preference for the night)
Cub: Mommy, blanket!
Me: Meimei, close your eyes and sleep!
Dragonlady: Okayyyyyy *closes her eyes and opens them again*
Me: *pats her bum*
Me: *cuddles her*
Me: Go to sleep then!
Dragonlady: Blanket! Baby (bear)! Buls (Bolster)!!
Me: *covers her with the blanket and throw the bear and bolster at her*
Dragonlady: Theenk keww!
Somebody needs me at mealtimes.
Me: Meimei, do you want Mommy to feed you?
Dragonlady: NOOO! I feed.
Me: Good girl!
*turns to the cub*
Cub: Mommy, feed!
Me: Aren’t you feeding yourself in school?
Cub: I want Mommy feed!
*Dragonlady joins in the fun*
Dragonlady: I want Mommy feed!
Somebody needs me when they are not well.
For medication. For nasal spray. For taking of temperatures. For oiling. For sponging. All day long and all through the night.
To clean them up when they throw up. To cuddle and tell them it’s okay.
Somebody needs me even if I am unwell.
The kids have to be fed. The bottles have to be washed. The bags have to be packed. The bedtime routine has to go on. The Chinese revision playtime the kids love has to go on!
Mommy means ensuring you don’t wake the kids up when you want to throw up in the middle of the night.
Mommy means you carry and cuddle your kids when they need you even when the masseuse thinks you walk funny cos of your back aches.
Somebody needs me during my shower.
For some reason, the dragonlady tends to stir in her sleep and wake up looking for me the moment I turn on the shower.
Mommy means you will have company in the shower probably until the kid(s) turns 3. (I HOPE!)
Somebody needs me all the time.
Mommy means letting the kids know you will always be there for them and always love them.
Cherish every single moment of being needed cos there will come a day when the children no longer need you as much as they did in the early years of their lives. And you can never turn back time again.